Do you have a daughter who screams at the mere mention of brushing her hair? Is her head so tender that even without knots, the tears flow? Me too.

Have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman?

This book helps you discover how you and your loved ones give and receive love. The five love languages are:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
  • Quality Time

I’ve known that my middle child, Princess, has a love language of Physical Touch. I think she would be attached to my hip all the time, if she could. But I’ve never really thought about how that knowledge could help me with everyday tasks, such as brushing her hair.

The other day, by accident, while I was brushing her hair, she ended up facing me with her arms around my waist. It was the perfect angle for brushing her hair, and she stopped fussing. I asked her, “Does hugging me while I brush your hair make it hurt less?” Of course, she said yes.

Whatever works, right? So my advice to you is to figure out your child’s love language, and use that to your advantage, even in the small things!.